Rush

Yikes! I never thought my blog's title could actually turn into an actual reality!

The song I have for everyone today is Blackstreet's In A Rush.


It came over me in a rush that I realized that I love you so much and sometimes I cry but I can't tell you why I feel what I feel inside. 

It happens. You just wake up and you're in love with someone, while you're still with somebody else.

I think I'm in love with Cityboy. All it took was for him to send me a couple of silly text messages. Am I that easy?

I was up until 12AM last night because we were sending each other messages.

This is crazy. I barely know him. He isn't even cute. I don't even know if he's gay. He just talks softly, and like a kid.

I hate this.

Cityboy

So after having come back from Singapore a couple of weeks back, and after lamenting over the miniscule bump on my iPad because of the horrid baggage handling in Changi Airport, I thought I was going to be able to forget Nat, my Mr. Weekend in New England.

Guess what, another guy comes into my life.

I mean, he didn't literally just pop in, he's actually been there, but I wasn't minding him. He's a new employee in the office. He's one of the Finance Managers of my company, so I work hand in hand with him to ensure that the finances of the department assigned to me are in order.

I just realized last Friday evening that his text messages are kinda iffy. What I mean is, we've barely known each other for a couple of months and he sends me the oddest text messages.

For all intensive purposes, let us hide this mystery guy under the code name Cityboy.

Let me transcribe our messages for you:

ME: 
When is she coming back? Tell her I will pick her up just so we could meet regarding this issue.

CITYBOY: 
Hahaha, Tonight balik niya. When are you going to be transferred to a different property?

ME: 
I know, I know, I'm being too makulit about this and there's nothing you wouldn't want more than for me to be transferred to a different property. Unfortunately my papers for the transfer have not yet been transferred yet. The Board of the other property hasn't even received my resume yet. 


CITYBOY:
Sayang. Hehe. No I'm not asking you to leave. I'm just wondering who would take your place handling this area when you're gone. 

The following is a transcript of the odd text exchange we had last Friday:

ME:
When are you available so we can schedule talking about the billing and other things?


CITYBOY:
Tuesday, after our 9AM meeting.


ME: So that's 1:00PM?


CITYBOY:
We can have it right after.


ME: 
Over lunch? We usually finish that meeting at around 12:00-12:30PM. (Me aghast that he doesn't even want to take a lunch break before proceeding to the next meeting.)


CITYBOY:
Depends if we can have lunch, let's ensure to finish this on Tuesday.


ME: (realizing he might have thought I was inviting him for lunch)
Oh, no, no, the question was meant to denote that after the meeting is lunch, and not a lunch invitation. Anyway, let's finalize this on Monday so that we can start having a semblance of a weekend. I'm sure you've had a long day also. I just got to Dusit from the office for a dinner party, and I was held up not by traffic but by work. 


CITYBOY:
Having experienced you drive, good to know your (sic) safe. hehe.


ME: (upset because I was offended by his statement)
Oh that's bad, are you saying I'm a bad driver? I got into a car accident twice in my life, and I wasn't driving both times. So to answer you, I am not a bad driver. Nonetheless, my parents are buying me a new car so you don't worry that I wreck my Pajero. 


CITYBOY:
Haha. O well, at least for me, never been hit nor hit anyone. Im always safe. Except when I'm texting while driving or when sleepy. hahaha.


ME: (Realizing how awkward the conversation is turning.)

I had to attend a meeting with him this morning and I was trying so hard to ignore him. I actually felt so glad when my boss asked me to sit at the other end of the board room table.

Honestly, I could see him stealing glances from me.

We had lunch afterwards, and I was insistent that I needed to sit next to him to discuss the pending matter that we had texted about last Friday.

I was there to discuss work, but my boss was saying that she noticed he was all googly-eyed with me.

We had another meeting afterwards, and when he was about to leave, he was saying goodbye to everyone, and I didn't bid him goodbye. He had another longing look for me.

This guy is supposed to be straight. Allegedly he has a girlfriend. Then why do I feel as if he's hitting on me? And for the record, I don't like him. I'm not all kinikilig when my officemates are making him asar to me. I'm actually natatawa. 

Honestly, with the guys that are coming my way, I feel like I'm stuck in high school. 

Does He See Me?

Wondering out loud, will Nat be proud of me?
If he found out that I also teach during Saturdays, or that if I maintained blogs?
If he saw how tight a ship I ran in the office, or how I conduct my meetings, what would he say?
Does he secretly hope to have my life, when he sees me arriving at work in expensive cars?
Does he appreciate the Chopards, the Panerais and the Technomarines worn during days off?
What would he say if he found out I live in a property managed by our company, that I am a resident?
How would he react if he saw the house my family lives in?
Does he see me the way I see him?
What sense do these things have if he doesn't notice me?
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Not Applicable Today

Pretty difficult to work today. Since I only have 2 days to finish 5 days worth of work, I am up to my neck in paperworks that need to be filed, and minutes that need to be transcribed. To make matters worse, I can't stop thinking about him. Damn! Listening to Phillip Phillips' rendition of Usher's U Got It Bad, and I am thinking, this voice belongs to Nat (yes, that's the codename I gave Mr. Weekend in Baguio). This infatuation has gotten to stop! It's not healthy anymore. These thoughts are so not applicable today!

Listening to a cheesy Toni Gonzaga song on my iPod while finishing minutes.

"Catch me I'm fallin' for you and I don't know what to do. How can something so wrong feel so right all along? How can time be so wrong for love to come along? How can love let it grow when it has no place to go and I can't go along pretending that love isn't here to stay."

I lectured my mother the other week about the lyrics of songs. Apparently during their time, they'd just sing to the songs without minding what it was saying. The thing about me is I listen to what the lyrics are trying to say. I don't want to be mindlessly saying something obscene.

I feel I'm a DJ and I end up playing songs that I see as current themes of what I'm feeling.

Point being, if this song is the constant in my iPod right now, I don't think Nat is turning out to be healthy for me. Got to find a distraction from him then.

Out Damned Spot

I remember the spot he was trying to clean on the Porter bag while along Gibraltar in Baguio. Took a damp rag and wiped the spot.

Wouldn't want to look and give meaning to simple actions, especially coming from a straight married man. I hate this.

Weekend In New England

I have been a fan of Barry Manilow since I was a kid. One his songs that I've been obsessing over for quite some time now is Weekend in New England. For those who aren't familiar with this song, check out the lyrics and the music posted on Youtube.

Perhaps what I love best about Barry Manilow's songs are the stories being told. Most of his songs tell a story, none of the crap that we often get nowadays. Weekend in New England, in my opinion, speaks of a married man who takes trips to New England where he carries out an affair. Some even say that Reba McEntire's song Whoever's in New England is the wife's perspective on the husband's romantic trysts in New England with his mistress.

"Last night, I waved goodbye. Now it seems years. I'm back in the city, where nothing is clear."

For the first time, I am acknowledging feelings that I think I might have with an officemate of mine. I am in a relationship right now. I do love my boyfriend, so much. This is me releasing these feelings I have for someone else.

We're about the same age. He was born the same month as me, the same year as me. We were born 15 days apart. We started in the company the same year. I would notice him from the first few days of training. He has one of those nerdy boy next door looks that make geeks like me want to swoon over him. He's about as tall as me. He's quite lean. I love his complexion. But that was it. My property is different from his. He's assigned to a low-end property, and I'm assigned to high end one.

After the training, I didn't get to see him much. I would see him in company parties and functions, but we don't really interact. In fact, it wasn't until over a year later when we interacted again. My boss at the time made me perform for the Christmas party. I was going to sing, and he was one of the dancers. They were going to dance to that song with the lyrics, "I was dying inside to hold you. I couldn't believe what I felt for you. Dying inside, I was dying inside, but I couldn't bring myself to touch you."

He could dance. And he would always attend our practices, even if he had to commute all the way from Quezon City to Makati. I think I had a crush on him then.

"And tell me when will our eyes meet? When can I touch you? When will this strong yearning end?"

Another year went by, and I was asked to help out for another Christmas presentation. Since I had just come from an operation, I couldn't really actively participate in the presentation, so I was asked to help with the costumes, and the make-up. He was part of the group again.

An innocent crush can change quickly to desire, and when he was changing costumes in Intercontinental Manila's function room, he just took off his pants in front of everyone, I was shocked seeing his bare chest and his boxers. I couldn't stand it. I had to excuse myself. Imagining what I would have wanted to do with his smooth chest, and wanting to pull of his flimsy boxers, I chose to leave the function room.

I went out to purchase oil and  black body make up, because the men in the group were to wear a "bahag" and nothing else, save for their oiled and "messed up" torsos.

I came back and everybody starting oiling and applying black body make up on themselves. He asked me to apply oil and make up on his torso. I wasn't breathing at all while I was doing so.

"Time in New England took me away to long rocky beaches and you by the bay. We started a story whose end must now wait."

Last Friday, I went to Baguio. It was our company's annual summer outing. He was part of the first batch. I was trying so hard not to mind him at all. There was a bonfire Friday evening where our HR announced the group leaders for the scavenger hunt to be held the following day. I was one of the group leaders. I went up and was given a list of the employees who belonged to my group. I started reading from the list, but my heart stopped on the last name, and I hesitated before I said his name out loud.

The scavenger hunt was quite an ordeal for me. I was physically not fit to run around Baguio looking for clues. Furthermore, I was sporting a hangover from drinking the night before. We rode a jeep going to one destination, and he was sitting beside me. He would pass payment from other commuters to me to give to the driver, and our hands would touch. Each touch was electric to me.

We were running to Strawberry Farm, and he must have realized I was having difficulty. He took my Porter messenger bag from me. One of the locations was muddy. I was cringing because my Yohji Yamamoto sneakers were getting encased in mud. He asked me what was wrong, and I told him my sneakers were PhP 15,000.00, and he was shocked in the most cute and concerned kind of way. He saw dirt on my bag, and he started brushing it off. I laughingly told him he'd be aghast to know that the bag was more expensive than my shoes, and I was right. He smiled.

He needed money to use the restroom. I told him to just get it from my wallet. He was shocked because I had PhP 10,000 pocket money and SGD 400 in the wallet.

One of the challenges called for us to row a boat in Burnham Park to get a flag. He was having a hard time rowing, and I wasn't because I must have done this in Baguio a hundred times already. He was so ashamed and kept apologizing to me. I didn't mind because at the back of my mind the thought of rowing in Burnham Park with him was one of the sweetest experiences I've had of the man-made lake.

I was watching a movie in the living room of the cottage Saturday evening, and he was drinking with his friends in the dining area. He would bring shots of vodka and soda to me in the living room. He offered a body shot. 

"And when will I hold you again?"

He's straight. He's married. He has two kids.

I'm gay. I'm in a relationship. I'm happy.

I don't know how he factors in.

All I know is that I'm a spoiled brat who lives in a condo, drives around in SUVs, and dines out in expensive restaurants almost nightly. On weekends, I grudgingly go home to my family's house in New Manila, where I plan dinner menus, or make reservations for restaurants.

He's a family man who lives in Cavite with his wife and two kids. I don't think he owns a car. His wife cooks for him. His kids wait for him to come home.

We're worlds apart. And I don't mean this in any belittling manner.

But at random moments, I end up thinking of him. The ride back to Manila from Baguio, all the songs in my iPod made me smile randomly, because all I thought of was him.

Going to Singapore in a couple of days with my boyfriend. I will make better memories there.

BDO: We Find Ways of Inconveniencing You

I have an account with SM Makati BDO. I have a trip to Singapore this May 16, so I contacted my branch last May 2 to order SGD 400. I was informed by the woman I spoke with that it will take 3-5 banking days for the SGD to arrive. I called the branch last May 8, on the 5th banking day, to check if the SGD is available, and they informed me that these arrived last May 4 (the 3rd banking day) and since it was unclaimed, it was returned to the supplier. I asked them why they did not contact me, and they told me that it was not their practice. I informed them that they gave me a time frame of 3-5 banking days, so naturally, I would call on the 5th day to give them leeway, so why am I being inconvenienced by the return of the SGD on the 3rd banking day. 

On May 8, the man I spoke to, and with whom I ordered the SGD for the 2nd time, assured me that for the inconvenience I experienced, he will ensure that on May 10 he or someone from the bank, will contact me as soon as the SGD arrives. Nobody called me from the branch, I ended up calling to follow up if the SGD was there, only to discover that I needed to present my passport and e-ticket in order to get the SGD. 

The previous people I spoke with have not informed me at all of these. It was a good thing that my e-ticket was readily available, but my passport was in the condo. I am gravely disappointed that BDO does not value the simple joys their account holders get from the basic courtesies that should be expected from banks. It is very different from BPI who knows how to take care of its account holders. They contact you if your checkbook is available, if your SGD is available, or if your ATM is available already. 

I know I'm just one person, and that my account with your bank is nothing, but regardless of the client, BDO has to do a better job of taking care of us, of giving us value. A simple call to inform your clients of the availability of the third party currency that they ordered will only cost a couple of minutes (landline is free calls) from the time of your bank employees, and yet will make a big difference in ensuring that we are kept satisfied.